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Dating Lessons From The NFL Draft

by | Apr 24, 2024 | A-Ha Moments, Life Lessons, My Dating Diaries, Relationships, The Adventures of Dating

Settling for Potential is a Fumble 

In honor of the upcoming NFL Draft, let’s tackle the topic of dating like it’s the NFL Draft! It’s time to put on your game face. Just like professional sports teams carefully select players based on their skills and performance, we too should approach dating with intention and avoid settling for potential. 

Now, I know most of my blogs are geared towards the ladies (because, well, I am one), but let’s be real, everyone can benefit from this advice. We’ve all been guilty of swiping through a sea of fish and finding nothing worth keeping. But wait, what’s that one over there? “Oh, he has some potential!” But let me tell you, babe, potential rarely works out the way you want it to.

Think about it, when NFL teams are drafting players, they don’t just look at potential. They analyze stats, skills, and on-field performance. They know what they want and go after it. So why should we approach dating any differently? 

When considering partners, let’s meet them where they’re at. Are they treating us with respect? Showing love and affection? Making us a priority? Are they secure in themselves? Consistent? Does their lifestyle align with yours? These are the things that truly matter in a relationship, not some vague idea of potential.

I’ve made the mistake of dating men for their “potential” way too many times. And over time, I began to  realize that I wasn’t dating men — I was dating “potential.” I was dating someone for their potential to be better, rather than who they currently are.

Let’s not repeat my mistakes. I’ve learned a lot from those experiences, but it came with heartache and trauma. Don’t settle for someone’s potential or let them bring you down. You deserve someone who lifts you up, respects you, and sees your worth from the get-go. You do you, and don’t let anyone dull your shine.

I like to imagine my past “potentials” sitting in a therapist’s office working out all their issues, even if it’s more probable that they are somewhere together having their weekly “I Hate Allison Club” Meeting. Just kidding. Sort of. 

 Let’s explore how you can elevate your dating game.

  1. Stop Settling: In the dating world, it’s easy to get caught up in the allure of someone’s potential. But potential alone doesn’t guarantee a fulfilling relationship. Instead, we should focus on finding partners who demonstrate qualities that truly matter, such as respect, love and affection. Let’s prioritize what truly counts rather than chasing vague ideas of what someone could become. 
  2. Meeting People Where They’re At: Just like NFL teams evaluate players based on their stats and skills, we should assess potential partners based on their actions and behavior. Are they treating us with respect? Are they making us a priority in their life? Are they secure in themselves? These are the qualities that truly matter in a relationship, not just potential. 
  3. Avoiding Red Flags: We’ve all been guilty of ignoring red flags in the pursuit of love. But just as NFL teams wouldn’t draft a player with numerous warning signs, we shouldn’t ignore the signs of trouble in our relationships. Trust your instincts and don’t settle for someone who brings more drama than joy into your life. Remember, you deserve someone who lifts you up and respects you from day one. 
  4. Learning from Past Mistakes: Personal experiences can be valuable teachers. If you’ve settled for potential in the past, reflect on the heartache and trauma it may have caused. Use those lessons to guide your future dating decisions. Don’t repeat the same mistakes; instead, prioritize your own happiness and well-being. Never settle for someone who dulls your shine or makes you feel less than you are.  

In the game of dating, settling for potential is a fumble waiting to happen. Just as NFL teams aim for the best players, we should strive for the best partners who see our worth and treat us with love and respect. Let’s approach dating with the same level of intention and discernment as an NFL draft, and never settle for anything less than we deserve. Remember, you are the MVP of your own life, and you deserve a partner who recognizes and appreciates that.

Allison Rose

Allison Rose

Founder at Filter Free Bullsh!t Free

Entrepreneurship is my addiction, Sharing my story and empowering others is my passion. My girl gang, my family and tequila shots fuel my soul & calm my head. I’m here to inspire and to be inspired.

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