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The Ultimate Guide to Being Single: Because Apparently I Need Fixing

by | May 7, 2024 | A-Ha Moments, Life Lessons, My Dating Diaries, My Stories, Relationships

Ah, the joys of being single! The freedom, the independence, the ability to eat an entire pizza without judgment. Yet, for some reason, society seems to think that my being single is a curse, and a sign that there must be something inherently wrong with me. 

In a society that glorifies romantic relationships, being single seems to be seen as a negative status. However, I am here to challenge these misconceptions and share a perspective that all you “couples” seem to be missing. 

I love being single. This is the first time in my life that I am truly happy, and I am embracing the single life for what it truly is – a time of self-discovery, personal growth, and empowerment. 

And who doesn’t like doing whatever they want all the time?

So while many think that being alone is clearly the worst thing ever, I’m here to tell you that being single is pretty great.

Here’s why.

  1. The Pity Party:

Oh, the sympathetic looks and the well-meaning but misguided comments I get on a regular basis from friends, family and general acquaintances. “Don’t worry, your time will come,” they say, as if being single is some sort of terminal illness. Well, guess what? I’m not sitting around waiting for my “time” to come. I am out living my best life, enjoying my own company, and not settling for just anyone who comes along.

Being single has allowed me to focus on myself and explore my own interests, passions, and goals. It has provided me the opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth without the distractions or compromises that come with being in a relationship. Embracing the single life gives me the freedom to make decisions solely based on my personal desires and aspirations.

  1. The Relationship Status Police:

Ah, the ever-vigilant relationship status police, always ready to swoop in and ask, “Why are you still single?” as if it’s a crime against humanity. Well, excuse me for not settling for less than I deserve. I’d rather be single and fabulous than stuck in a mediocre relationship just for the sake of being in one. One of the greatest advantages of being single is the freedom and flexibility it offers. I can make spontaneous decisions, travel, explore new hobbies, and pursue personal interests without having to consider the needs or preferences of a partner. 

So, to all the relationship status police out there, mind your own business and let me enjoy my singlehood in peace.

  1. The “You Must Be Lonely” Myth:

Apparently, being single automatically means I must be lonely and desperately seeking companionship. Well, newsflash: I’m perfectly capable of enjoying my own company. I have hobbies, interests, and a whole world of possibilities to explore. I’m not sitting at home pining for a partner. I’m out traveling, chasing my dreams, making new friends, and having adventures that would make even Indiana Jones jealous.

Contrary to popular belief, being single doesn’t mean being lonely. It offers a chance to build meaningful connections with friends, family, and myself. 

  1. The “Something Must Be Wrong with You” Stigma:

Ah, the assumption that because I’m single, there must be something wrong with me. I’m so tired of hearing “maybe you’re too picky, too independent, blah, blah, blah….” maybe I am just too fabulous for anyone to handle. So, let me set the record straight: being single doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with me. It means I have standards, I value my independence, and I refuse to settle for anything less than amazing. So, to all the naysayers out there, keep your judgments to yourself and let me rock my single status with pride.

  1. The “You’re Incomplete Without a Partner” Fallacy:

One of the most absurd notions is the idea that I am somehow incomplete without a partner. As if my worth as an individual is determined by my relationship status. Well, let me tell you something: I am whole and complete just as I am. I don’t need someone else to validate my existence or make me feel complete. I am perfectly capable of creating my own happiness and living a fulfilling life on my own terms.

Society often equates success and happiness with being in a romantic relationship. However, being single challenges this notion and encourages individuals to redefine their own definitions of success and happiness. It opens up the possibility of finding fulfillment in personal achievements, career growth, friendships, and other aspects of life beyond romantic partnerships.

6..The Plus One Predicament:

Ah, the dreaded “plus one” invitation. It seems that some people have a hard time comprehending that I can have a good time without a partner glued to my side. Apparently, my ability to enjoy an event is directly proportional to the presence of a plus one. Who knew? It’s as if my single status automatically disqualifies me from having a good time or being a valuable addition to any gathering. But fear not, dear friends, for I have mastered the art of attending events solo and having a blast without the need for a plus one.

  1. Couples-Only Events:

And let’s not forget about the infamous couples-only events. It’s as if the world has conspired against me, creating exclusive gatherings that are off-limits to me because I am single. I mean, who needs a diverse mix of people and perspectives when you can have a room full of couples discussing their matching outfits and couple goals? It’s truly a sight to behold. But hey, who needs a partner when you can have a fabulous time with your own company? I’ll just be over here, enjoying my own witty banter and not having to compromise on my choice of activities.

But thank you for the constant reminder that I’m not invited to certain events because I don’t have a significant other. It’s like a secret club that I never asked to be a part of, but somehow, I’ve become an honorary member of the “Exclusion Squad”.

  1. The Burden of Exclusion:

Being excluded from things because I am single can sometimes feel like a burden, or cause me moments of doubt where I feel like I have lost the privilege of being included. But then I take a step back and reflect on the absurdity of it all. Why should my relationship status determine my worth or my ability to enjoy social events? I am a strong, independent individual who can rock any party, wedding, or gathering with or without a partner by my side. So, to all those who think I’m missing out, think again. I’m living my best life, single and fabulous.

So, to my fellow single warriors, let’s raise our glasses (or pizza slices) to celebrate the awesomeness of being single. Let’s embrace our independence, revel in our freedom, and laugh in the face of those who think being single is a bad thing. Because, in reality, being single is a choice, a statement of self-love, and a testament to our strength and resilience. So, here’s to being single and fabulous! 

Disclaimer: This blog is not meant to undermine the value of relationships or dismiss the experiences of those who desire a partner. Being single or in a relationship is a personal choice, and both can bring joy and fulfillment. I respect your desire to be coupled up, so why can’t you respect my desire to be single?

XOXO
Allison Rose 

 

Allison Rose

Founder at Filter Free Bullsh!t Free

Entrepreneurship is my addiction, Sharing my story and empowering others is my passion. My girl gang, my family and tequila shots fuel my soul & calm my head. I’m here to inspire and to be inspired.

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