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You Can Either Work On Your Next Hangover, Or You Can Work On Your Goals

by | Apr 12, 2024 | A-Ha Moments, Health & Wellness, Life with an Alcoholic, Personal Development, Successes, The Truth About Entrepreneurship

Shots, shots, shots! Sound familiar? 

Shots, parties, and wild nights with friends may sound familiar and exciting. For many of us, socializing and letting loose after a long week of work is a way to unwind and have fun. But what happens when the desire to party starts to fade, and the pursuit of our goals takes center stage? 

Don’t get me wrong, I still cherish wine nights with my best friend, tequila shots with my dad while watching an Eagles game, and I love pairing a nice meal with the right drink. But lately, I have stayed out of the party scene and have been more focused than ever on my personal growth, ambition, and the pursuit of success.

I understand that some might take this personally, but I’m not here to  rain on your parade. If you’re going out tonight, by all means, have a great time! In fact, I envy you. It’s how most people connect socially.

But what I live for now has changed. 

Here’s 7 reasons why: 

  1. Reflecting on the Party Lifestyle:
    Growing up working in bars, partying, and bartending my way through college, I experienced the thrill of the party scene firsthand. It was a lifestyle that seemed glamorous and exciting, but as time went on, I began to question its impact on my life and goals. The realization that partying didn’t align with my aspirations started to take hold.
  1. Shifting Priorities:
    After years of being immersed in the party culture, I found myself reevaluating my choices. I began asking myself hard questions about what truly mattered to me and how partying fit into my long-term goals. It became clear that the party scene was hindering my progress and leaving me feeling unfulfilled.
  1. Embracing a New Mindset:
    I grew up working in bars. I owned and managed bars for many years. I spent ten years in a relationship with an alcoholic, and because he was always drinking, I found myself drinking more as well. Alcohol has been a significant part of my adult life, and in the past it was not rare not to find me out on a Friday or Saturday night, especially since I’ve been single.Making the decision to step away from the party scene required a shift in mindset. It meant acknowledging that my goals and dreams deserved my full attention and dedication. I recognized that partying often left me feeling sluggish and unable to perform at my best. To achieve success, I needed a clear head and the ability to focus on what truly mattered.
  1. Finding Alternative Ways to Connect:
    While staying at home when your friends are out having fun may seem isolating, (and it can be) it has opened up opportunities for me to connect with others in different ways. Instead of relying on alcohol-fueled gatherings, I have discovered the joy of meaningful conversations, shared experiences, and pursuing common interests. Building genuine connections based on shared values and passions has become more fulfilling than the temporary high of a party.
  1. Investing in Personal Growth:
    This mindset shift has allowed me to redirect my time, energy, and resources towards personal growth. I realized that investing in myself and my goals was far more rewarding than any night of partying. I am saving the money I would have spent on drinks, and am instead using it to fund my next adventure or invest in my personal development.
  1. Living by Your Own Rules:
    Stepping away from the party scene meant breaking free from societal expectations and living life on my own terms. It required me to embrace the freedom to make choices that aligned with my values and aspirations, even if they went against the norm. Living by my own rules has empowered me to create a life that is authentic and fulfilling.
  1. Discovering Passion and Purpose:
    I have always been driven and worked incredibly hard, I but now I feel like the opportunity to explore my passions and discover my true purpose has elevated to new levels. My drive to create and work on personal projects has brought me more joy and fulfillment than any night of partying ever could. I am channeling my energy into projects that align with my values and allow me to make a positive impact.

In summary, this isn’t me announcing that I have quit drinking, because I haven’t. This is me sharing that I have been making the decision to pursue my long-term goals, and sacrifice short-term fun. And this is no easy feat. It has required a ton of self-reflection, a shift in mindset, and the courage to live life on my own terms. 

However, by redirecting my time and energy towards personal growth, investing in myself, and discovering my passions, I am creating a life that is aligned with my true purpose. I am embracing the freedom to pursue my goals and watch my success become my new party.

For those reading this, remember, it’s never too late to make a change and prioritize your dreams. So, raise a glass to your ambitions and toast to a future filled with purpose and fulfillment. Cheers to a life well-lived!

Allison Rose 


Allison Rose

Founder at Filter Free Bullsh!t Free

Entrepreneurship is my addiction, Sharing my story and empowering others is my passion. My girl gang, my family and tequila shots fuel my soul & calm my head. I’m here to inspire and to be inspired.

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